Saturday, May 05, 2012

Junot Diaz on Older Women

My favorite Dominican-American novelist, Junot Diaz, has published a fine and true (in the fictional sense) story in The New Yorker about a love-sex affair with an older woman.

 "Miss Lora" comes along in the 16-year-old hero Yunior's life just after he has lost his brother to cancer, and he's lonely, horny and confused. Basically, he needs an older woman in his life right about then, and along comes a middle-aged single teacher from a local high school in New Jersey. The girlfriend who calls Miss Lora "that old fucking hag" won't sleep with Yunior, but Miss Lora will, oh yes, she will.

It's all wrong for Yunior and Miss Lora to get together because he's too young and she's too old, but they do. And it's not just a one-time thing, either. They keep getting back together because their attraction is powerful.

Junot Diaz (Photo: AP)
"You are scared stupid at what you are doing, but it is also exciting and makes you feel less lonely in the world," Diaz writes. "And you are sixteen, and you have a feeling that, now the Ass Engine has started, no force on the earth will ever stop it."

OK, I have to say that I especially liked this story because I related to it personally. I was the older woman in a young man's life once. And it felt so powerful and so wrong, and we shouldn't have come together but we did because we couldn't help ourselves. And then we went and married each other, didn't we? That was nine years ago, and we're still together.

Well, "Miss Lora" doesn't end so happily, but it ends the way most affairs end between an older woman and a younger man. The big difference between my story and Diaz's is about ten years: Yunior meets Miss Lora when he's 16, and I met Dave when he was 25.

"I assumed the reader would judge the situation immediately; this is, after all, illegal conduct," Diaz tells The New Yorker in an online interview about his story. "But I had hoped to produce a piece of art that allowed the reader to experience a number of contradictory streams of feelings simultaneously. Sure, it would be swell if someone got to know Miss Lora before they judged her, or if their judgment was overturned by reading the story, but it’s also cool if a reader judges and knows the character simultaneously and neither of these experiences alters or counteracts the other. In a culture like ours, obsessed with its dichotomies, giving folks the opportunity to work out their simultaneity muscle is a worthy goal"

Friday, April 27, 2012

Brooklyn's Muslim Bad Girls, M.I.A. Style

Muslim sisters are doing it for themselves in Brooklyn! I was walking to the subway earlier this week, and spotted a car driving verrrry slooooowly around a traffic circle on a quiet street, with the hazard lights blinking.

Hmm...I thought...car in distress? Mechanical difficulties? There was no "Student Driver" sign posted on top of the car, so what was going on? An impatient driver in a car behind the slow one nosed up to the bumper until it could sneak past and hurry along its way.

I kept walking closer until I could peek inside the vehicle, and I was rewarded with a delightful little scene: two ladies in head scarves, the younger one behind the wheel and peering over it cautiously, the older one in the passenger seat acting as instructor and lookout.

Yay! Had to have been a Muslim mom teaching her daughter to drive. I love Brooklyn!

Seeing these independent ladies in head scarves, driving along with no men to accompany them, made me think of that new M.I.A. video "Bad Girls." You know the one I'm talking about? "It's a great big middle finger to Saudi Arabia's inhumane laws about women," writes Lucy Jones in her blog for The Telegraph. "It's the only country in the world where women are banned from driving. Muslim academics warned in December that allowing women to drive would 'provoke a surge in prostitution, pornography, homosexuality and divorce.' Please."


Sunday, April 01, 2012

UNTERZAKHN--Leela Corman's new graphic novel

Check out my friend Leela Corman's new graphic novel, UNTERZAKHN, about to be released from Schocken Books. Leela is one of my personal bad-girl superheros--she's smart, talented, a student of history and used to be my belly dance teacher and may one day be again if she ever moves back to NYC from Gainesville, Fla.
Leela's graphic novel tells a story of immigrant life on the Lower East Side at the turn of the last century, as seen through the eyes of twin sisters whose lives take radically different paths. (In case you didn't know, "unterzakhn" is Yiddish for "underthings.")

This spring, Leela's traveling all over America to promote her story of "bad girls making good, pogroms, and vaudevilian types." She'll be doing book events all over NYC as well as in Gainesville, Boston, Portland, Seattle, San Francisco and Toronto. You can find her at www.leelacorman.com or Twitter: @LeelaOfNewYork.

Plus! Leela will also be dancing in some unrelated events, in New York City and in Toronto.
Here are the NYC listings for the UNTERZAKHN launch:

Tuesday, April 3, Brooklyn:
7 p.m., WORD bookstore book launch party, 126 Franklin St.
Thursday, April 6, Manhattan:
6:30 pm, Tenement Talks event at the Lower East Side Tenement Museum, co-sponsored by the Center for Cultural Judaism. 103 Orchard Street (at Delancey). RSVP requested (events@tenement.org). Event is free, but requires purchase of book.
Saturday, April 28-Sunday, April 29, Manhattan
MoCCA Fest 2012.

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

You're invited: Cher-tacular art opening & costume party, April 7

Please come!  Nancy Drew, "66 Chers (Dear Cher)"
Art Opening, Cher-tacular & Costume Party, April 7, Brooklyn
see her Dear Cher Series at:  http://nancydrewpaintings.com

WHEN:  Saturday, April 7th, 6 to 10 pm
                  Show runs April 7th thru May 6th

WHERE:  The Backroom at Freddy's Bar
                     627 Fifth Avenue (between 17th & 18th Streets)
                     South Slope, Brooklyn

Freddy’s Bar announces its newest art exhibition, a show of recent work by Brooklyn artist Nancy Drew.
Nancy Drew's mixed-media portrait paintings of Cher explore the realm of celebrity, beauty and aging in the 21st Century's hyper-pop landscape. Employed as much as a stand-in for 'everywoman' as for her off-center iconic status, images of Cher from the 70's are printed onto contemporary magazine pages, mounted to canvas and amplified with collage, glitter, beading and various forms of adornment and deconstruction.

Also premiering in this exhibit, a very special Cher video mash-up by legendary video artist Donald O'Finn.

Don't miss Nancy Drew's Opening Night Cher-tacular Events:

6 - 8 pm:  Art Opening 
66 Chers, mixed-media paintings by artist Nancy Drew
With:  a very special Cher video mash-up by legendary video artist Donald O'Finn. 

6 - 10 pm:  Cher Costume Party
Come as Cher or Sonny, one of her fabulous ex-boyfriends or anyone else from those groovy days...
Be one of the first 25 guests to arrive in costume and receive a signed, "Dear Cher" monoprint by Nancy Drew. Special Prizes for Best Costumes include a Nancy Drew 'Cher' painting and Freddy's bar tab.
...Rumor has it that some of Cher's ex's, Greg Allman, Les Dudek and Brooklyn's very own Rob Camiletti
might make an appearance! 

8 - 9 pm:  Sonny & Cher Comedy Hour 
Hosted by premiere comic, VH1's Pat O'Shea. 
Special guest appearances by impersonators Tom Jones, Burt Reynolds and more!

9 - 10:30 pm:  Cher-aokee
Hosted by Tokyo Rosenberg & H-Bomb. 
Cher & Sonny wigs will be available for your performances! Special prize for best performance!
Freddy's Bar & Backroom
hours: Sun - Sat 12pm - 4am
subways: F train to 4th Avenue/9th Street
               R train to Prospect Avenue

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Ladies of Hip-Hop Festival Needs You to Step Up

The Ladies of Hip-Hop Festival needs your help!

This group of women artists comes to New York on July 13 to 15, in their eighth annual dance festival, but first they're raising money on Kickstarter to fund their education and performance efforts that put the focus on women and positive roles in hip-hop culture.

Right on, ladies.

The Ladies of Hip-Hop project will only be funded if at least $5,000 is pledged by Sunday, April 8, 2:20pm EDT. As of today, Kickstarter reports the project has 88 backers who have raised $3,187 so far.

"Nothing against our male artists but it is necessary to give focus and thanks to our girls and women in the culture," say the Ladies on their Kickstarter comments page.

Check 'em out and give 'em some love.